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Rule # 1
FIND THE FREAKING TIME TO DO IT!
I work a 9 hour work day. I get up at 4:15 am every morning, get dressed, drink coffee, and be out the door by 5:20 am. I stand most of the day on my feet. When my shift is over, I spend another 45 minutes fighting traffic before making it home. My 18-year-old daughter lives with me and so does my 2-year-old grand-daughter. My daughter is a young mother. She does not have her license and depends on me to get back and forth to work. She has to be at work by 4 pm. I pick her and the baby up from my house and drop her off at her job.
I get home and try to clean, finish laundry, and feed the baby at the same time. My fiance gets off of work around 5:30 pm. He insist on telling me how his day went and questions me about my day. I listen to him vent while chasing the baby, cooking, and washing clothes. I give her a bath around 7 pm and she is asleep by 8:30 pm. By the time I get the chance to take a bath and relax, it is 10:00 pm. I have just enough time to get to bed and hopefully be asleep by 11:00 pm to get at least 5 hours of sleep….If I am lucky.
Only one issue, I chose to become a writer of a great mystery novel! The one caveat that I am learning as a novelist is how to carve time out of my day to actually write.
Like most people, I am a creature of habit. The humdrum of my routine has become…. routine. And if I want to become a great writer, I have to break out of this cycle of nothingness. Don’t get me wrong. Working is productive, helping my daughter gain independence is important, spending time with my grandchild and fiance is important but it is not going to get me where I need to be if I do not change.
As women, we often neglect ourselves to take of others. It is ordained in our DNA. But how can we take care of others if we do not take care of ourselves? Starting this novel has caused me to reflect on some things and become more active in progressing my goals. If I can take the time to write, I can take the time to exercise and meditate.
In my early morning routine, I am learning to write while I am drinking my coffee at 4 in the morning. As I drive to work, I daydream about my characters sitting through stifling bottle-neck traffic. On my lunch break, I write. Even if I misspell words or there are fragments in my sentences and grammar mistakes in my paragraphs. I still write. After I put the baby to bed, I shower and then I write.
A dream is only a dream until it is acted upon. Success does not come easy. You have to be willing to sacrifice time, sleep, and other pleasures to reach your destiny. Rome was not built-in a day and a great novel will not happen overnight.
Key Point: FIND THE TIME TO WRITE… All good things take time but you have to start NOW.
God forbid the day comes and you are 90 years old and never finished your book. Do you really want to reflect on how you could of, should of, or would of?